Marriage...
The other day I was thinking and realized I needed to change...
I'm only 26, have been married only 6 years and already I find myself feeling too comfortable as a wife and friend to my husband.
I remember in college while we were dating we took an eternal marriage class. Todd and I had the best time in that class together. We would listen to the insane questions a lot of the students had about their spouse or dating person and we would look at each other and think...glad that's not us. Or there were days during the lecture we would think, I know that "whatever situation" will occur sometime in our marriage, but how will it go down? Who will be the first to say I'm sorry? Or I hope that never happens to us. I can honestly say I couldn't have chosen a better spouse to support me and put up with me. This guy is one understanding man. Nuf said:)
I'm only 26, have been married only 6 years and already I find myself feeling too comfortable as a wife and friend to my husband.I remember in college while we were dating we took an eternal marriage class. Todd and I had the best time in that class together. We would listen to the insane questions a lot of the students had about their spouse or dating person and we would look at each other and think...glad that's not us. Or there were days during the lecture we would think, I know that "whatever situation" will occur sometime in our marriage, but how will it go down? Who will be the first to say I'm sorry? Or I hope that never happens to us. I can honestly say I couldn't have chosen a better spouse to support me and put up with me. This guy is one understanding man. Nuf said:)
We all know any advice on marriage from the first presidency is GREAT advice. From my text book for this class there is this quote given by President Faust:
Marriage relationships can be enriched by better communication. One important way is to pray together. This will resolve many of your differences, if there are any, before the couple goes to sleep. I do not mean to overemphasize differences, but they are real, and do make things interesting. I believe our differences are the little pinches of salt that can make the marriage seem more flavorful. We communicate in thousand of ways, such as a smile, brush of the hair, a gentle touch, we should remember each day to say "i love you", The husband should say to his wife, "You are beautiful". Some other important words for both husband and wife to say when appropriate are "I'm sorry". Listening is also an excellent form of communication.
Marriage relationships can be enriched by better communication. One important way is to pray together. This will resolve many of your differences, if there are any, before the couple goes to sleep. I do not mean to overemphasize differences, but they are real, and do make things interesting. I believe our differences are the little pinches of salt that can make the marriage seem more flavorful. We communicate in thousand of ways, such as a smile, brush of the hair, a gentle touch, we should remember each day to say "i love you", The husband should say to his wife, "You are beautiful". Some other important words for both husband and wife to say when appropriate are "I'm sorry". Listening is also an excellent form of communication.
Marriage has taught me a lot about myself. I'm constantly trying to improve myself, but I'm needing to find that balance of improving as a wife. I know I do a good job, I know I'm a great best friend, but sometimes I need to realize I can do better. I can become the best!
3 comments:
I forgot to tell you, Love the picture of you two!
girl, this was a great post. First of all, for you wanting to be better is saying that you are doing a good job now. I think the minute we think we are awesome and great as a wife is when we need to the most work. I know all of us need to be better but you are doing good. You guys have fun together and I can tell that you guys love each other.
oh, and I love that quote. It's so funny because you see how other couple are and you think, man I don't want to be like that but you can see how someones marraige can turn like that. Like in the movie "Date Night" it's all about communication. Well put!
well said...i know i always feel a little more on track when i am working towards something. anyways...i already admire you guys' relationship so if it can get even better...that is awesome! you go girl! :)
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